Sunday, January 21, 2007

The Price of A Child





This bit of parenting inspiration arrived in my email box today is just too good to keep to myself. Enjoy!

The government recently calculated the cost of raising a child from birth to 18 and came up with $160,140 for a middle income family. Talk about sticker shock! That doesn't even touch college tuition. But $160,140 isn't so bad if you break it down. It translates into:* $8,896.66 a year,* $741.38 a month, or* $171.08 a week.* That's a mere $24.24 a day!* Just over a dollar an hour.

Still, you might think the best financial advice is don't have children if you want to be "rich."

Actually, it is just the opposite. What do you get for your $160,140?

- Naming rights. First, middle, and last!
- Glimpses of God every day.
- Giggles under the covers every night.
- More love than your heart can hold.
- Butterfly kisses and Velcro hugs.
- Endless wonder over rocks, ants, clouds, and warm cookies.
- A hand to hold, usually covered with jelly or chocolate.
- A partner for blowing bubbles, flying kites
- Some one to laugh yourself silly with, no matter what the boss said or how your stocks performed that day.

For $160,140, you never have to grow up. You get to:

- Finger-paint.
- Carve pumpkins.
- Play hide-and-seek.
- Catch lightning bugs.
- And never stop believing in Santa Claus.

You have an excuse to:

- Keep reading the Adventures of Piglet and Pooh.
- Watch Saturday morning cartoons.
- Go to Disney movies.
- And wish on stars.

You get to frame rainbows, hearts, and flowers under refrigerator magnets and collect spray painted noodle wreaths for Christmas, hand prints set in clay or Mother's Day, and cards with backward letters for Father's Day.

For $160,140, there is no greater bang for your buck. You get to be a hero just for:

- Retrieving a Frisbee off the garage roof.
- Taking the training wheels off a bike
- Removing a splinter.
- Filling a wading pool.
- Coaxing a wad of gum out of bangs.
- And coaching a baseball team that never wins but always gets treated to ice cream regardless.

You get a front row seat to history to witness the:

- First step.
- First word.
- First bra.
- First date.
- And first time behind the wheel.

You get to be immortal. You get another branch added to your family tree, and if you're lucky, a long list of limbs in your obituary called grandchildren and great grandchildren. You get an education in psychology, nursing, criminal justice, communications, and human sexuality that no college can match.

In the eyes of a child, you rank right up there under God. You have all the power to heal a boo-boo, scare away the monsters under the bed, patch a broken heart, police a slumber party, ground them forever, and love them without limits. So, one day they will, like you, love without counting the cost. That is quite a deal for t he price!!!!!!!

Wednesday, January 17, 2007

Adulescene: Will Your Child Be Ready For the REAL World?

The epidemic what is sometimes referred to as "Peter Pandomonium" or "Boomerang Kids" in which a greater number of young adult children are continuing to live at home and/or return home was the topic on the Bill Good Radio show panel I was on today. (Listen to the full show below).

The statistics show us that there is an over 50% increase in adult children living at home since the 70's in North America. Should parents be concerned? Well it depends if you feel your kids are primarily looking for "what can I get" or "what can I give."

Are You Guiding Your Children To Be Capable and Responsible?

In many cultures, a family home successfully includes extended family where children will often live with their parents well into their 30's. When this works well it is because each family member is a contributing participant. The parents who give their children a "hand-up" by having their children contribute in terms of chores and/or finances get the thumbs up by me.

The parents I am concerned for are those who have fallen into the common trap of giving their children constant "hand-outs" like VISA cards with no limits, and catering to them hand and foot. Coddling your child in this manner leads to freeloading children who do not develop the confidence, desire and motivation to contribute in any sort of meaningful way.

How to Be Certain You Are Not Spoiling Your Child

Not so long ago we would say, "Eat all your vegetables because there are children starving in India." Today, what we should say is, "Do all your homework as there are children in India starving for your future job." Many jobs are now being filled by well educated and highly motivated young adults from countries such as India. Why? They will often work for less AND will go the extra mile because they have a burning desire to get ahead.

Have you noticed that many young adults today are lacking the kind of work ethic? Want to make certain your child doesn't fall into this category? Then make certain you are giving them the opportunity to contribute in meaningful ways around the house. I've alway been a huge chore advocate (see my article on chores here). Also, let them earn there own way just a bit more by giving them that "hand-up" but not constant "hand-outs."

Developing an attidutude of gratitude and a solid work ethic in our kids is one of the key to being a great parent. This can only be done when we give them the chance and opportunity to give to us and to others. Take the time to learn how to parent your child in a way that brings out the best in them by signing up for my free parenting course and by getting my book "When You're About To Go Off The Deep End, Don't Take Your Kids With You."

To listen to the taped CKNW Bill Good Show in which Kelly Nault is one of the panel guest authors discussing 40 minute show on adult children living at home just press play below.

First Segment of the Bill Good Show CKNW (aprox 8 mins)




Segment 2 Bill Good Show CKNW (aprox 8 mins)




Segment 3 Bill Good Show CKNW (aprox 8 mins)




Segment 4 Bill Good Show CKNW (aprox 8 mins)



Final Segment Bill Good Show CKNW (aprox 8 mins)





Friday, January 12, 2007


New Baby Arrival: The Stork Brought Parenting Author Kelly Nault a Toddler!
On October 28th, 2006 Kelly (at 5 feet 2 inches) delivered Tyler Kennedy into this world--a big baby boy! When the doctor asked, "Would you like to see your toddler?" before placing Tyler into Kelly's arms she knew he had to be big! At just over 10 pounds, Tyler is indeed a bouncing baby boy.
Both mom and baby are doing great--feeding, sleeping, walking and even going on a few snowshoe adventures with husband Tom. Currently, Kelly is on maternity leave until February so she can best take care of herself and her new babe.