Adulescene: Will Your Child Be Ready For the REAL World?
The epidemic what is sometimes referred to as "Peter Pandomonium" or "Boomerang Kids" in which a greater number of young adult children are continuing to live at home and/or return home was the topic on the Bill Good Radio show panel I was on today. (Listen to the full show below).
The statistics show us that there is an over 50% increase in adult children living at home since the 70's in North America. Should parents be concerned? Well it depends if you feel your kids are primarily looking for "what can I get" or "what can I give."
Are You Guiding Your Children To Be Capable and Responsible?
In many cultures, a family home successfully includes extended family where children will often live with their parents well into their 30's. When this works well it is because each family member is a contributing participant. The parents who give their children a "hand-up" by having their children contribute in terms of chores and/or finances get the thumbs up by me.
The parents I am concerned for are those who have fallen into the common trap of giving their children constant "hand-outs" like VISA cards with no limits, and catering to them hand and foot. Coddling your child in this manner leads to freeloading children who do not develop the confidence, desire and motivation to contribute in any sort of meaningful way.
How to Be Certain You Are Not Spoiling Your Child
Not so long ago we would say, "Eat all your vegetables because there are children starving in India." Today, what we should say is, "Do all your homework as there are children in India starving for your future job." Many jobs are now being filled by well educated and highly motivated young adults from countries such as India. Why? They will often work for less AND will go the extra mile because they have a burning desire to get ahead.
Have you noticed that many young adults today are lacking the kind of work ethic? Want to make certain your child doesn't fall into this category? Then make certain you are giving them the opportunity to contribute in meaningful ways around the house. I've alway been a huge chore advocate (see my article on chores here). Also, let them earn there own way just a bit more by giving them that "hand-up" but not constant "hand-outs."
Developing an attidutude of gratitude and a solid work ethic in our kids is one of the key to being a great parent. This can only be done when we give them the chance and opportunity to give to us and to others. Take the time to learn how to parent your child in a way that brings out the best in them by signing up for my free parenting course and by getting my book "When You're About To Go Off The Deep End, Don't Take Your Kids With You."
To listen to the taped CKNW Bill Good Show in which Kelly Nault is one of the panel guest authors discussing 40 minute show on adult children living at home just press play below.
First Segment of the Bill Good Show CKNW (aprox 8 mins)
Segment 2 Bill Good Show CKNW (aprox 8 mins)
Segment 3 Bill Good Show CKNW (aprox 8 mins)
Segment 4 Bill Good Show CKNW (aprox 8 mins)
Final Segment Bill Good Show CKNW (aprox 8 mins)
The epidemic what is sometimes referred to as "Peter Pandomonium" or "Boomerang Kids" in which a greater number of young adult children are continuing to live at home and/or return home was the topic on the Bill Good Radio show panel I was on today. (Listen to the full show below).
The statistics show us that there is an over 50% increase in adult children living at home since the 70's in North America. Should parents be concerned? Well it depends if you feel your kids are primarily looking for "what can I get" or "what can I give."
Are You Guiding Your Children To Be Capable and Responsible?
In many cultures, a family home successfully includes extended family where children will often live with their parents well into their 30's. When this works well it is because each family member is a contributing participant. The parents who give their children a "hand-up" by having their children contribute in terms of chores and/or finances get the thumbs up by me.
The parents I am concerned for are those who have fallen into the common trap of giving their children constant "hand-outs" like VISA cards with no limits, and catering to them hand and foot. Coddling your child in this manner leads to freeloading children who do not develop the confidence, desire and motivation to contribute in any sort of meaningful way.
How to Be Certain You Are Not Spoiling Your Child
Not so long ago we would say, "Eat all your vegetables because there are children starving in India." Today, what we should say is, "Do all your homework as there are children in India starving for your future job." Many jobs are now being filled by well educated and highly motivated young adults from countries such as India. Why? They will often work for less AND will go the extra mile because they have a burning desire to get ahead.
Have you noticed that many young adults today are lacking the kind of work ethic? Want to make certain your child doesn't fall into this category? Then make certain you are giving them the opportunity to contribute in meaningful ways around the house. I've alway been a huge chore advocate (see my article on chores here). Also, let them earn there own way just a bit more by giving them that "hand-up" but not constant "hand-outs."
Developing an attidutude of gratitude and a solid work ethic in our kids is one of the key to being a great parent. This can only be done when we give them the chance and opportunity to give to us and to others. Take the time to learn how to parent your child in a way that brings out the best in them by signing up for my free parenting course and by getting my book "When You're About To Go Off The Deep End, Don't Take Your Kids With You."
To listen to the taped CKNW Bill Good Show in which Kelly Nault is one of the panel guest authors discussing 40 minute show on adult children living at home just press play below.
First Segment of the Bill Good Show CKNW (aprox 8 mins)
Segment 2 Bill Good Show CKNW (aprox 8 mins)
Segment 3 Bill Good Show CKNW (aprox 8 mins)
Segment 4 Bill Good Show CKNW (aprox 8 mins)
Final Segment Bill Good Show CKNW (aprox 8 mins)
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